If I could sum up the last 6 months in one word it would probably be “whaaaaaaat the hell”! I feel like it properly encompass both the highs and lows I’ve experienced these last couple seasons. I put together a few shake back lessons I picked up along the way this season. Hopefully you find them helpful during your season of transition.
Shut down the pity party.
Listen sis, in all honesty and at the VERY end of the day, nobody cares. I mean it. And honestly, you’ll only upset yourself further feeling like people should. Pity parties aren’t very festive and they’re not very befitting of you. You’re truly better than that. Life happens to us all and something that I’ve learned is truly indicative of a persons character is how they react when things aren’t going their way. Who are you when things don’t go your way? Figure out a way to boss back up and do that!
There is NO enemy.
I find that it’s all too easy to try and blame your bad situation on everyone and everything in sight. That’s not healthy for a couple reasons: (1) you keep your mind (the most powerful thing in your possession) in a negative state and (2) you push people who otherwise would be more than willing to help away because you feel entitled. Yep, I said it. You feel like you DESERVE better. And you do, but watch your attitude. There’s a fine line between deserving and demanding. Honestly there’s only one person in life that will ever get in your way. Check the mirror, you’ll find her every time..
Attitude is EVERYTHING.
Cliche right? Well it’s one that still rings true. You know the joy you have when you secure a new bag, a new job, get an acceptance? Keep that same energy! Period. Of course everyday isn’t a great day, but it’s still a day you’re blessed enough to experience. I’m learning myself more and more and I love it. I know when my mood is off and I actively try to adjust or I take the time and space I need and rest in solitude. People shouldn’t have to share in your bad days with you or wonder if it’s okay to approach you today. You should have a consistent baseline version of yourself that you always present to the world. Now don’t fake it, be you. And remember, it’s okay to let people know that you’re not having a good day. Most people respect it and give you time, space, or advice. Don’t give off smoke when it’s not necessary.
You’re still a Queen.
Remember who you are! On your WORST day you don’t all of a sudden stop being who you are. Jesus was Jesus when he was healing the blind AND when he was hanging from the cross. Who you are doesn’t change just because your circumstances do. As a person endowed with all of the best things from the most high it’s important not to tie your self worth to this world and it’s materials. Lost your job? Got kicked off a team? Behind on some bills? So what. That’s what’s happening to you, it’s not WHO you are. You are capable of changing your situation in the blink of an eye. But, you can’t do it when you’re in an unworthy state of mind. You feel that heartbeat in your chest? Newsflash sis! God BEEN validated you. It’s time for you to get with it and know that you weren’t made for this, THIS was made for you and it’ll work out (word to Chance).
I pray you love, light, and prosperity beloved.
XOXO
Elayne MeShell