This past weekend I turned a page and stepped into the coveted “twenty fine” space. I don’t have some big revelation to share, but rather a few little life truths that I gathered up for the rest of my 20 something’s out there that I think are important to keep in mind as you continue to grow, evolve, create, & learn.
People come, people go...
And that is OKAY. Friends turn to strangers and strangers become family. Believe it or not, It’s apart of the great circle of life. Yes, I totally went all Lion King on you but it’s true. People come into your life for reasons we aren’t always privy to and they leave or we leave them for reasons that can’t always be explained at the time. In any instance, strive to be the best you and give the best ofyou. The right people will always somehow be around and those are the people you thank God for.
God still knows what he’s doing even when you don’t…
And the older you get, the more you take comfort in knowing that you actually don’t have to have it all figured out. All you have to do is show up and let God do the rest. We literally have an entire life full of possibilities and opportunities in front of us but we stress ourselves out because WE don’t get to know how the story goes or ends ahead of time. Darling, life would be the most dull experience ever if we knew everything today. There would literally be no point in a tomorrow so revel in that fact and be glad you don’t know it all.
Self love is a journey, not an overnight sensation…
While media and everything we have access to would lead you to believe that somehow we just start living our best life on the drop of a dime after being borderline depressed the week before, that’s not how it really works. It’s a process. As a woman especially, you’re constantly evolving in thought and emotion. There are things we have yet to deal with internally because we haven’t developed the tools to address them properly. The external part is easy. In fact save that part for last! You can get a facial, mani, or pedi anytime okay? Grab a journal & get down to the soul work.
You are your most important asset…
This is one I still have trouble with at times. It’s a balancing act between being selfless and selfish. I’m in no way saying put yourself first any and every time, but I am saying you should definitely THINK of yourself first any and every time. The only person responsible for you at this point in life is that beautiful face you see in the mirror daily. Everything is a choice, are you going with the best options for your life? What are you feeding yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally? Are you being kind to yourself? Are you forgiving of yourself? These are things you must consider or you’ll lose yourself every time. Have you ever lost a diamond? No? Good. Don’t start now.
Life is a gift…
And you are meant to live and enjoy it. So do exactly that! Don’t be afraid and don’t shy away. Chance the Rapper said it best, “I wasn’t made for this, this was made for me.”The world is your playground and don’t you ever stop playing. You were fearfully and wonderfully made. You are limitless and have everything you need right inside of you. You are just as important as the people you look up to and anything you put your mind to having is already yours, just put the work in to obtain it. We only get so much time here, don’t just exist…LIVE
Love, period.
One of my fav scriptures says Three things will last forever…faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. I truly believe this! I’ve never seen an evil, an ailment, or a broken heart that love didn’t have the power to cure. Practice love daily because God practices it with you endlessly and without prejudice. Does this mean you won’t get annoyed, upset, or down? Certainly not. But, when we make choosing love our default emotion, you would be surprised at how uncomfortable we get with being in a negative state too long. There’s always a silver lining, you just have to be willing to look for it.
Until next time & as always happy reading!
XOXO
Elayne MeShell